21 DAYS FASTING AND PRAYER | THEME: DEALING WITH UNRESOLVED MATTERS DAY 1 👉🏼 MORNING SESSION | JEALOUSY

 

21 DAYS FASTING AND PRAYER | THEME: DEALING WITH UNRESOLVED MATTERS

DAY 1  👉🏼 MORNING SESSION | JEALOUSY

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PART 1 : THE HEART

If you want to know if you are in the right path, search your heart first.

● Psalm 139:23 (KJV) Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts:  

● Psalm 139:24 (KJV) And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.  

- Sometimes we ask ourselves, "How do I know that the relationship I am stepping in is right or wrong? How do I know that the way I am following is right or wrong? ..."

- The answer is in the Scripture. If you want to know if you are on the right or wrong, you need to search your heart. 

Nobody knows the heart.

● Jeremiah 17:9 (KJV) The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?  

● Jeremiah 17:10 (KJV) I the LORD search the heart, I try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings.  

- Most of the time, when we pray we ask God to give us.

God will not give you until he tests you. God will not give you until  he searches your heart

- This 21 days of fasting and prayer is for you to search your heart. 

- Fast and pray that you will search your heart to know if you are right or wrong. 

The heart is a mystery.

- You can walk with somebody but you don't know their hearts, you don't know what he/she is thinking about you. 

- How can somebody go and destroy somebody else? It's all about the heart.

Prayer : Lord, search my heart

The heart of the matter is the matter of the heart.

● Acts 8:21 (KJV) Thou hast neither part nor lot in this matter: for thy heart is not right in the sight of God. 

- You can not a partaker of any blessing when your heart is not right.

- Those Struggling with drunkenness, you don't struggle with drunkenness,  you struggle with your heart. Your heart is not right. 

- Those who struggle with masturbation, fornication and all sorts of sexual sin, it is your heart that is not right. 

- The heart of the matter is the matter of the heart.

Please allow God to search your heart, allow God to try your heart, allow God to deal with your heart in those 21 days. 

PART 2 : JEALOUSY

● Jealousy is an emotional  state in which an individual desires something that someone else has and they do not. 

● Jealousy is rooted in comparison. When somebody compares their life situation with another. 

● Jealousy happens when you compare your life situation to another. 

PART 3 : DANGERS OF UNHEALED WOUNDS

Study case : Cain and Lamech

● Every man with an unhealed wound is :

1. Potential murderer (Genesis 4:8, 23-24)

2. Prisoner of anger (Genesis 4:6)

3. Potential parent of wounded generation (Genesis 4:23)

4. Prone to a dysfunctional relationship. 

PART 3 : WHAT TO DO TO PROCESS YOUR EMOTIONS

Genesis 4:7

STEP 1 | ADMIT, CONFESS, REVEAL, DISCLOSE; DON'TFAKE IT, FACE IT

The opposite of admitting is to refuse, to reject, to deny, to disapprove, to disclaim ...

Cain was bleeding within him, he was jealous, angry,  upset, frustrated and unhappy.  

In fact, even his countenance was showing that he was angry.

But, he did not admit it. He did not verbalize it. He did not express it. He did not disclose it.

● It"s human to feel how you feel. Admit it in you. Express it to God in prayer. Express it to the man of God you trust. Don"t suppress it. It will hurt you the more.

Proverbs 28:13 ERV Whoever hides their sins will not be successful, but whoever confesses their sins and stops doing wrong will receive mercy.

To hide = cover, conceal, refuse to admit, lie to yourself, ...

● Freud says this ... Unexpressed emotions never die. They are buried alive and will come forth in uglier ways.

Admit to God in prayer and say sincerely ... "I am angry. I am disappointed. I am unhappy."

"I" mean that you own it. You admit it. It is there. It is real. Don"t fake it. Face it.

Please, it is not faith to suppress how you feel. It takes faith to express it.

● What happened next to Cain for not admitting?? 

- Instead of winning the war within, Instead of dealing with anger within him, Instead of killing anger within him, Instead of overcoming anger within him, he killed an innocent man who did not do anything wrong to him.

- Admit to God in prayer

- Don't fake it but face it; don't surpress but express it

STEP 2 | ADDRESS IT AND AVOID PLAYING BLAME GAME

- No one makes you angry, it is you who is angry. No one makes you feel the way you feel.

- Take charge, take responsibility

 

Genesis 4:7 (KJV) If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee shall be his desire, and thou shalt rule over him.  

● Do you see how God is emphasizing on, 'you, your, you, you, you, you.'

You see? Seriously, Abel was not responsible of his unhappiness. The problem was not Abel. The problem was in him.

● How many innocent Abel are we not killing because we are not mature enough to take responsibility and deal with the anger, the bitterness, the ressentment, ...?

● You see? 

If you don"t heal first, the consequence is ... you will bleed on people who did not cut you.

- If you don"t heal first, the consequence is ... you will kill innocent who did not wrong you ...

● Please ... Deal with you first ... Deal with you first... Deal with you first ...and Don"t kill Abel who did nothing to you

STEP 3 | ACT, DON'T REACT.

● You act when you make use of self-control. 

You react when you you loose self-control.

● Ephesians 4:26 ERV "When you are angry, don't let that anger make you sin," and don't stay angry all day.

- You see? This text teaches us that to be angry is not a sin. 

● When you are angry, you do not sin because of anger. But you sin because you allow anger to make you sin.

● What did God tell Cain ?Genesis 4:7 NKJV If you DO WELL, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it."

● Romans 12:21 KJV Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good  

WHAT TO DO TO OVERCOME JEALOUSY

1. Learn to congratulate others from the heart

2. Stop comparison

3. Don't compete

4. Celebrate others

5. Learn to be contented

● Philippians 4:11 (KJV) Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.  

● Incorporating scriptures into each prayer point can provide a strong foundation for reflection and meditation. Here are scriptures corresponding to each prayer point:

1. Pray for the strength to admit and face your true emotions without suppressing them:

  

-  James 5:16 (NIV) "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective."

2. Pray for the courage to address negative feelings and emotions rather than playing the blame game:

- Philippians 2:3-4 (NIV)  "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others."

3. Pray for self-control to act purposefully and not react impulsively, especially when dealing with anger and negative emotions:

  

-  Proverbs 29:11 (NIV)  "Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end."

4. Pray for the wisdom to deal with unresolved wounds and emotions to prevent harming others unintentionally:

   

- Proverbs 15:1 (NIV) - "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."

5. Pray for the ability to overcome negative emotions with good and to rule over sinful tendencies:

  

- Romans 12:21 (NIV) - "Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."

● When God opens a door for others, celebrate them

- Be free from jealousy.

● Preach from the place of compassion not a place of competition

✍🏽Reverend TD Kasuku